So yesterday I was thinking about making a post to do with the mind and thoughts you have but I just had an argument with my unofficial ex and I’m fucking livid! I’m sure everyone is sick of me venting about this but I made this blog so I could blow off steam and not do anything stupid to myself. If you have an ex or you’re just mad and you want to feel mad along with me then this is the post for you.
Me and my ex planned to meet tomorrow morning last week to vent and clear the air. I wanted to do this just under a month ago but nope, she was busy or gave some other shit reason why she couldn’t do it and now here we are. I messaged today to see if she was still coming by tomorrow. She said yes but she had the flu and that right there was the start of all this. I thought she was just going to cancel so I said “If you’re not well you don’t have too”. She said she wasn’t cancelling but then good old me said “I thought you were gonna cancel”. This started between 1-2 hours of arguing between us. That one comment that I couldn’t keep in my head. Have you ever wanted to say something to someone but just didn’t because you knew it would cause an argument? Could have been to anyone. Well she’s cancelled so many times that I just had to say something and the only reason I said it was because I didn’t think she’d get upset by it! I thought I can put how I feel in a delicate way without upsetting her. How was that even close to delicate? Moron. She then continued to have a go at me for not talking to her this weekend and then moments later she says she’s always busy! If you’re always busy, how the fuck am I meant to talk to you?! Agh! We then argued about how long she was going to stay until and because we’d been arguing for a while, I thought I’d ask if she was still coming by. She then called me a drama queen because I keep getting mad at her. So I put “No…I’m fucking mad that you ended things between us and you continue to treat me like shit!”. This led to us pausing the argument until now.
She messages me back a few hours later saying she’s a “little mad”. She says it’s because of me saying I’m mad at her and that she’s done nothing to me since she’s been back at university. I said let’s talk about it tomorrow when we meet up and but she said she wanted to talk about it now. She said “I feel hurt and mad” so I put “Well that’s how I’ve been feeling since you ended it”. Her response, “Stop fucking guilt tripping me for ending things man. That’s not fair.That was over like two months ago.”. This is where I decided to come on here and vent instead of doing something stupid. I just lost my cool. I’m sorry it’s taking me so long to get over this but it meant something to me and she’s fucking telling me I should be over it by now?! I’m finding being her friend really tough and she is making no effort at all in this and yet she’s the one that wanted to stay friends! I think it upset me so much because I’ve been holding onto the idea that we will end up together again and her saying that just proved to me it’s never going to happen. I’ve finally come to the realisation in my head that we’re officially finished. I’ve been thinking about what I’m going to say to her tomorrow for the last week and every time I do, I call her by my ex’s name. I hate her so much now, my ex’s name just comes up in my head when I think of what I’m going to say to her. That is so sad…
Thanks for reading if you did 🙂 . Apologies for the grammar and the terrible writing. I’m going to blame it on my anger and my sleepiness. I’m seeing her in less than 8 hours so if anyone has any advice that would be awesome or if you’ve had a moment where you’ve wanted to say something but didn’t, feel free to type it out here. 🙂
So recently I’ve been thinking about things I’d like to achieve before I die and as I plan on dying at the age of 30 if I don’t get a girlfriend, I think I need to make a move on. I’ve recently been thinking about my bucket list, which is a list of “a number of experiences or achievements that a person hopes to have or accomplish during their lifetime”. I started thinking about what I could put on my list and decided to start writing it. Below are a few things I’ve put on my list.
As you can see I only have 12 things at the moment but I’m sure I’ll think of more. Obviously, a lot of these are probably going to be impossible to achieve such as meeting Magic Johnson but I’d like to hope that I could meet my hero one day. Living in NYC has been a dream of mine since I was in secondary school and luckily, I got to go there in 2017 with my best friend. So that’s one achievement or goal I can cross off my list. However, living there now just seems like an unrealistic dream. Being diabetic, I’d have to pay for medical insurance in America and as I constantly suffer from Hypoglycemia, (Low blood sugar) I feel like I would have to pay a lot for insurance. Also, and correct me if I’m wrong as I’m not entirely sure how medical insurance works over there but I think your work or job you have has to cover you. I doubt many people in America are going to want to cover someone who constantly passes out from low blood sugar levels. So living in NYC seems pretty out of reach at this moment in time.
I’d love to learn how to play the piano or guitar. The piano is one of my favourite instruments and has been for such a long time. I learned to play the violin but I never really enjoyed it and the piano would be an instrument I would actually enjoy playing. Learning a new language as well would be amazing. I’d love to learn to speak Spanish as my Aunt speaks Spanish and lives there and that would be really cool to be able to speak to her. Also many people around the world can speak more than one language so I would feel like that was a good achievement to have.
A lot of the goals I have are about learning to do things or visiting new places. I don’t really like myself and I feel like I’m very stupid and don’t have any skills. I remember in primary school the teacher went around the classroom asking people what talent they have or what one thing they were really good at. I remember being the only person that didn’t give an answer because I couldn’t think of something I was good at. To this day I still can’t name something I’m talented at. I got to university but I’m going to finish with a 2:2 which I’m not proud of at all. Yeah people could argue I’ve been very unwell and I’ve been living with really horrible people and that hasn’t helped me at all but still, I should be doing better. I know I could have done better. My other goals are visiting places and seeing of much of the world as possible. Yeah I have a few fun things on my list like watching a live NBA game but as I said, most are learning new things or visiting places.
I’ll continue to add to my list and hopefully complete it so I can start working on achieving some of those goals and aspirations. I found a website recently called skillshare where it teaches you and helps you develop new skills. I think that website will help me a lot and may even help me with my university work. Have any of you guys made a bucket list? Or do you have any dreams or goals you’re aiming for at the moment? Feel free to comment on dreams you have or feel free to comment about mine. Hope you’re all having a good day 🙂
My day today, started out really well but I just woke up from a nap feeling suicidal. I woke up and my blood sugar was low so maybe that’s why but I don’t know. I just feel really isolated, I’m beating myself up (mentally) and I just feel suicidal.
My day started out with me going to my tutorial I had with my lecturer and talking about my dissertation. He asked how my summer was and how I was and I mentioned my break up this summer and he didn’t really give a response but it just felt good telling someone or venting about it. We talked about what work I needed to do and arranged to see each other again in 2 weeks time. I felt really good about our talk and what I needed to do so I left feeling really positive and being happy it was a good start to the day.
I then went shopping to buy some food and meals for myself as I didn’t have any food back at the flat. This is when my day started to go down hill. I got some food and I normally get a hot food snack but they didn’t have any this time and I wasn’t that bothered about it. I went to the self checkout and this is when I got really angry. I always get annoyed so easily in life but I was scanning my food and there just kept being problems with my checkout. There was loads of people using the self checkouts and there was one member of staff helping everyone. I thought that was so stupid as it was so busy and you leave one person to deal with everyone on their own. What really annoyed me is every time my till had a problem she’d walk straight past me and go to someone else. I get it’s busy but if you’re standing right next to me, why the hell are you ignoring me?! I’d wait for 10 minutes every time I had a problem so it took me like 40 minutes to get out the shop! It just really pissed me off and put me in a bad mood.
I then got home and decided to play on my Xbox to blow off steam but I recently bought a game and it’s just really pissing me off. There’s been a series of these games and they’ve changed the recent one so much that I’m just not very good at it. So that’s not making me happy at all and it’s just making me feel worse. I then again, got annoyed and got into a small argument with the girl who ended things between us as she just keeps pissing me off. I think I’m over her now though but I’m actually starting to hate her. I then found out yesterday that one of the girls I was living with last year has deleted me off Facebook. The girl I was dating is living with someone else I was friends with and I mentioned before in a previous post that girl now hates me and apparently bitches about me with the girl who deleted me off Facebook. I feel like after his breakup thing that I’m some how the bad guy or the villain in all of this. I’ve done nothing wrong and yet I’m the one being hated on and being punished.
So towards the end of the day I had a nap and woke up feeling suicidal and wanting to die. I’m just really unhappy at the moment and I don’t want to be here. I’m fed up with life being so difficult and constantly getting knocked down. I just feel like God is constantly beating me up and punishing me and I don’t get why. What have I done to deserve all of this? That date on Saturday, I just knew it would go badly and it wouldn’t work and it didn’t. I think I just like to blame everything on God because I just don’t have an answer about why all this bad stuff keeps happening to me.
This blog helps me so much as it just allows me to vent how I’m feeling without anyone judging me or hurting my feelings. Thanks for reading and I hope you’re having a better day 🙂
So I’ve just got back from my date I had tonight and just like I predicted, it didn’t go very well.
I got ready a few hours before the date and I think I looked pretty good. Not the best I’ve ever looked but I had no complaints. I wore jeans, a shirt, a jumper and my suit shoes 👞. I left at 18.00 and arrived at 19.20 and I met her by the door of the bar. From the very beginning of the date it felt awkward. We had drinks and spoke for a couple of hours but it just all felt forced. The conversation never started flowing or going smoothly. We’d bring up a conversation topic and it would last about 15-30 seconds and then there would just be awkward silences. It just didn’t feel natural. She was very nice and I really appreciate her staying for two hours. That made me feel a lot better. It wasn’t going well and we could both tell but she stayed and I appreciated that a lot. The first date I ever had that I told you about was just as bad but she just left and was rude. The girl I saw tonight was at least nice and didn’t just get up and leave even when it was tough. It was getting noisy in the bar towards the end so I suggested we leave and I was going to say we should go for a walk but I think she thought I meant let’s just end the night. So I’m not even upset or mad at it for ending when it did. When we spoke over messenger it went smoothly and it was easy to talk but it was the opposite in person. On the dating website I used, there was an article called “No more awkward silences”. It said “What everyone is looking for on a date is a sense of connection and chemistry. This is usually evident when the conversation is smooth and flowing. Communication is the route to intimacy so it’s worth knowing a few ways to get things back on track if the conversation dries up”. Unfortunately, I didn’t know and still don’t know how to get the conversation back on track if it dries up.
So overall, it wasn’t a great night. Saying that though, I don’t feel suicidal or feel like hurting myself. It really means a lot to me that she stayed for the time she did. Her doing that I think has actually left me feeling okay about what happened and not wanting to hurt myself. Maybe we just weren’t right for each other. I’m not in the best place at the moment anyway so that could have had an effect on it. I wasn’t confident and I just presumed it would go badly so that could have also played a part. I think the main problem was that it just felt forced. If I wasn’t feeling so down either or just gotten out of this breakup then maybe it would have gone better. So yeah, I’m not feeling suicidal and I don’t feel like self harming either. I just feel lonely and kind of empty. I want a girlfriend more than anything in the world but it just feels like it’s never going to happen :(. Positives though, I went on a date and I got asked on the date so that’s something. I feel like online dating is much tougher than meeting someone in real life and getting to know them that way. Online dating is like applying for a job where you have to pass certain tests. Meting someone normally and getting to know them over time feels much more comfortable that meeting someone online. Anyway, I just thought I’d let you know how my date went and to say that the date hasn’t made me want to hurt myself. Hope you’re having a better day than me 🙂
Tomorrow evening, I’m going on a date and I’m pretty terrified. I don’t know what I’m going to wear, I’ve had my hair cut three times to try to make it look okay, it’s in a place I’ve never been to and…I’m not looking forward to it. After this recent breakup I thought this is what I needed but I’m just feeling negative about it.
I’ve only ever been on one date in my entire life and it went…badly. It was awful. Basically I met someone on a dating website and we decided to meet up for drinks. I decided to look the best I could and went to go meet her. She turned and looked at me like I was the worst looking person in the world. I mean, we met on a dating site and I put photo’s of myself on there so she knew what I looked like. She stayed for about 20 minutes before leaving me on my own. She made no effort to talk and replied to every question I asked with one word answers. This was at a time I was feeling suicidal and trying to get my life back on track as well. So overall, my experience with dating is pretty bad. The girl I’m seeing tomorrow, I also met online and she is so nice. She makes me smile so much and she asked me out! Yes! I know, unbelievable. I keep reading back the messages myself to make sure she actually did but yeah she asked me out. She’s so nice and we’ve gotten on so well but I’m just not looking forward to tomorrow. I’m having problems with one of my housemates, there’s still drama going on from last years flat which includes the girl I was seeing and I just don’t know if I can deal with this. I’m expecting to turn up, she’ll see me and then 30 minutes later I’ll be on my own. I have no idea what I’m even meant to wear. I don’t want to wear a shirt as I’ll have to put a jumper on over it and I get far to hot just wearing a t-shirt let alone a shirt and jumper. Plus, what if she does turn away or she doesn’t talk to me? I’m just going to feel even more suicidal than I already do and I doubt I’ll come on here if things don’t go well. I’ll probably just do something stupid and end up hurting myself or worse. I’m so nervous and anxious and it doesn’t help when I’m living with someone who is a complete dick bag who makes me upset and anxious all the time. I really want to go on this date but I just don’t feel like I’m ready.
I didn’t want to write about my date tomorrow but I hadn’t posted anything in a while and everything else on my mind is just a mess so I thought I should at least write something. I haven’t told anyone about my date as I didn’t want to jinx it but I’ve now told you guys so if it all goes wrong, it’s my fault for telling you all. There’s a lot of other things I want to vent about but as I said, my mind is a mess right now and I can’t put those thoughts into words. Any help you can provide me on dating would mean the world to me. Whether it’s on what to talk about, what to wear, what time to arrive or just how to not fuck it up would be much appreciated. I’ll probably post again tomorrow telling you how badly it went. Hope you’re all having a good day 🙂
I’m now back at University and will be going to my classes next week. I thought I’d be happy to be back as I don’t really get along with my family but I’m not. I feel out-of-place, isolated. I feel lonely, like I’m not meant to be here. I’m living in halls again and my housemates don’ seem to like me. I’m 26 now and I already started university late at age 23 so I feel even more out-of-place than I did then. They’re all 18 so I don’t think they’d want to hang out with someone 8 years older than them anyway. The university has changed as well and they have new buildings and facilities and all my friends have graduated. I only really know a few people and the only one I talk to is the girl who ended are non-official relationship and it’s just really difficult being around her. I feel lost.
I met my housemates on Sunday and they just didn’t seem interested in talking to me. I already started talking to three of them on a group chat before I got here but when I arrived they didn’t seem to care. I arrived the same time as another guy and he just seems to hate me for some reason or another. Five of us went to an SU party on Sunday and two of them didn’t get in as they didn’t buy tickets. One of them was the guy who seems to hate me. He got in eventually and I saw him and grabbed him and said “Hey, you okay?” He just said “Yeah” and walked off. He doesn’t even talk to me in the flat or acknowledges me. I don’t even know the guy. Why are you being a dick? I hate when people are like that. He gets along with everyone else but hates me for some reason. Two girls I met on the group chat seem okay. One picked my shirt for the SU party so that was cool but they both don’t really talk to me either. We were at the party together and I lost them so I messaged where are you and they ignored it. I found them in the end but I just don’t get why they ignored it? I haven’t done anything to them, I just don’t get it. Walking back from the party though I spoke to one of them and she was really nice. We talked about being friends with people you break up with and that was really helpful as I’m currently trying to do that and she says it’s tough too. She was like “You’ve seen them naked so now it’s like awkward” which I thought was funny haha. One guy seems really nice and we both like Star Wars so that’s cool but again, I haven’t really spoken to him. I just met the other girl in the chat today and the last person is a girl in her 2nd year who again, doesn’t really seem to like me. So it hasn’t been a great start. I also saw the girl who ended things between us yesterday and that was difficult. We started hugging and lying next to each other and I thought something might have happened but she left because she was going to see a friend. Then 1 minute after she left she messaged saying a guy was hitting on her. Why would I want to hear that?!
So I feel so out-of-place, lonely, lost and miserable. I wish I had just gone to a new university and started afresh. That self-harming injury I caused is also worrying me. My cheek is still really swollen and I woke up with my ears covered in blood. Don’t know why smashing my cheekbone would have caused that but I’m a bit worried about that now as well. Now that I’m back I just don’t want to be here anymore. I don’t even like the room I’m in. I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel ready for any of this. Any advice would mean a lot or if you just want to vent about what’s going on with you then feel free. I hope you’re having a better week than me 😦
Last night I self harmed. I went into my larder downstairs and grabbed a hammer and went to the living room. I smashed myself across the face and went to do it again but flinched and accidentally chipped my front tooth. So I now have a swollen face, a bruised lip and a chipped tooth. I thought self harming would make me feel better but now I just feel worse because I have to live with a chipped tooth for the rest of my life. I mean, it’s only three years because that’s how long I’ve given myself if I don’t find a girlfriend and I really doubt I will now with a flipping chipped tooth. Great night.
So this is the first time I’ve self harmed in a long time and no, I don’t recommend it. I don’t mean like trying to kill myself I just mean hurting myself. I did it quite a lot when I was younger but as I got older I just started trying to end my life rather than hurt myself. I’ve cut my arms before, I’ve punched myself, I’ve punched walls and smacked my head against them, I even sliced up my face once when my first ex dumped me but a hammer is a new one. I mean I 100% regret it now but at the time I was just so angry. I basically got into an argument with the girl I had the recent breakup with and it made me lose my cool. We basically planned on hanging out this Sunday when I get back to uni and on Monday we were gonna hang out in the evening and have takeaway and watch movies and stuff. Just as friends. Then last night she cancelled Monday and was like I can only come round on Sunday for an hour, I got really pissed off and just stopped talking and went and hurt myself. I mean, I don’t care at all about how swollen and bruised my cheek is I just care about the tiny chip on my front tooth. I hate myself so much now. But yeah, I attached the image above because that’s how self harm works in my opinion. Except last night I missed the temporary relief part and just went straight to grief and emotional suffering. So it wasn’t worth it at all. I’m now all the way back to self harm because I just had another argument with her again because she’s apparently finding it difficult being friends. She has no fucking right to feel that way because it was her fucking idea to just be friends in the first place! Agh I’m getting mad again. I don’t want to self harm again though because now I have to live with a chipped tooth all because I flinched. I’m such an idiot.
So, the moral of this story is, DON’T SELF HARM! EVER!. You’ll end up with scars or maybe even worse! It’s not worth it because even if you do feel some relief, you’ll just end up feeling shit again and you’ll just go back to it. I now have a chipped tooth for the rest of my life and I now hate myself even more. I already thought I couldn’t possibly hate myself more but good old me has managed to do it. If you feel like self harming, call someone. I once at uni got so mad and angry I wanted to self harm but I got over it. I told you about all those years I spent getting well and all the people who helped me. They told me to be productive. So that time at uni I wanted to self harm, I instead went for a 6 mile run and wrote an essay that got me a first. Be productive. Let your anger and sadness out in a positive or productive way. You’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel than self-harming. If you’ve learned anything from this, I hope it’s not to self harm. Do something good that won’t hurt you. Anyway, I should have done this last night instead of getting a hammer as this was the productive answer. If you feel like self harming comment on this. Vent about your life and problems on here. Let me know your thoughts and situations in the comments 🙂