Going bald :(

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A lot of men go end up losing hair and going bald and 20% of men end up going bald before the age of 30. Sadly, I’m in that 20% :(.

I started noticing I was losing hair around 2 or 3 years ago. I basically had no hair on my crown and I got really worried and upset but, I didn’t do anything about it. It then started getting worse and worse. I’ve been using Rogaine since November last year but it hasn’t really worked and if anything, I’ve lost even more hair! My hairline has pushed even further back at the sides and the small bald spot I had at the crown of my head has got even bigger and moved even closer to my hairline. For someone who has depression, type 1 diabetes and memory problems, this is just icing on the cake. I really just want to die. Everyday I wake, 2 or 3 times throughout the day and before I go to bed, I think about ending my life. As my hair has been getting worse, I’ve thought about it more and more and it’s stressing me out so much. I dropped out of university so I could get well and go back but going bald is just making me more depressed. I don’t know if stressing about it is making me go bald quicker or if it’s a combination of things such as my poor diet and other health problems. I just know that it’s getting to the point where I need to shave all my hair off and it terrifies me.

As I’ve mentioned a million times, I can’t even get a girlfriend with hair! So what chances do I stand without hair! In my head, practically 0! All I want to do is cry and overdose on insulin but I can’t :(. I don’t know what to do. I went to see a consultant or hair specialist about going bald. We talked about having a hair transplant but it costs so much money! It’s roughly between £6,000 to £12,000 and as I currently only have £50 in my bank account, I’m quite a way off. The man I spoke to was quite nice as he said my hair was very healthy and getting a transplant now would be way to early. He said I probably won’t need one until I’m 30 but to take photos at the end of every month so I can see how fast my hair is going which I do, but it’s just making me more and more depressed. As well as that, I’m 27 so I’ve got less than 3 years! I’ve been buying Rogaine to try to help as well as other products such as Watermans Grow Me shampoo and conditioner. I’ve also bought Strand Maximizer to help. The problem with all of these is that it takes up a lot of time to use these products and when I’m going out, it either makes me late or stresses me out even more because I can’t get it done right or it takes up to much time.

I’ve been doing a lot of research into going bald, with the main focus on being if women find bald men attractive. I’ve put a few links to the websites I’ve viewed below if you want to have a look.  One of the websites had the pie chart below which are the results of asking 50 women if they mind dating a balding or bald man. 76% of which said no which has made me feel a lot better but still, that’s only 50 women and they don’t really go into too much detail about the study.

https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating/nation/what-50-women-really-think-of-balding-men

balding men statistics, what women think of bald men
Another link is to the student room which is asking students if they find bald men attractive. Most of them, saying no which makes me feel even worse as I am a student going back to university in September and I’ve never seen one bald guy there :(. Then I found a YouTube video of two women talking about bald guys being attractive and they said yes so :/.

 

I’m just really scared at the moment because I can’t get a girlfriend with hair, so how am I supposed to get one without hair. I know it’s stupid but being in a relationship and having a girlfriend is so important to me and this just lowers my odds even more. I think I need to start looking after myself better and maybe that will help my hair. Stop eating crap/junk food, start doing some exercise, stop taking too much insulin and not dealing with my diabetes and to try to distress myself.  I’m sure none of those things will stop or even slow down my hair loss but it might so it’s worth a shot. Even if it doesn’t, it might make me feel better :). My goal is to save money so I can eventually pay for a hair transplant but at the moment, I’m just trying my best to slow it down and cover it up. I know you’re meant to just shave your hair off as its way less attractive trying to cover it up but I’m’ just not ready to shave my head. I can’t :(. I just can’t do it yet. I’m not brave enough to take that step and I’d rather kill myself.

If anyone has any advice on hair loss or going bald, I’d really appreciate it. It would be great just to talk to someone about it and to someone who can relate or help. I just feel so down, alone and upset about it. Anyway thanks for reading 🙂 Feel free to message and leave comments 🙂

https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=4822880

Most//www.bbc.com/future/story/20160921-the-benefits-of-going-bald

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-mating-game/201612/do-women-find-bald-men-be-more-attractive

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Date review…

No-more-awkward-silences

So I’ve just got back from my date I had tonight and just like I predicted, it didn’t go very well.

I got ready a few hours before the date and I think I looked pretty good. Not the best I’ve ever looked but I had no complaints. I wore jeans, a shirt, a jumper and my suit shoes 👞. I left at 18.00 and arrived at 19.20 and I met her by the door of the bar. From the very beginning of the date it felt awkward. We had drinks and spoke for a couple of hours but it just all felt forced. The conversation never started flowing or going smoothly. We’d bring up a conversation topic and it would last about 15-30 seconds and then there would just be awkward silences. It just didn’t feel natural. She was very nice and I really appreciate her staying for two hours. That made me feel a lot better. It wasn’t going well and we could both tell but she stayed and I appreciated that a lot. The first date I ever had that I told you about was just as bad but she just left and was rude. The girl I saw tonight was at least nice and didn’t just get up and leave even when it was tough. It was getting noisy in the bar towards the end so I suggested we leave and I was going to say we should go for a walk but I think she thought I meant let’s just end the night. So I’m not even upset or mad at it for ending when it did. When we spoke over messenger it went smoothly and it was easy to talk but it was the opposite in person. On the dating website I used, there was an article called “No more awkward silences”. It said “What everyone is looking for on a date is a sense of connection and chemistry. This is usually evident when the conversation is smooth and flowing. Communication is the route to intimacy so it’s worth knowing a few ways to get things back on track if the conversation dries up”. Unfortunately, I didn’t know and still don’t know how to get the conversation back on track if it dries up.

So overall, it wasn’t a great night. Saying that though, I don’t feel suicidal or feel like hurting myself. It really means a lot to me that she stayed for the time she did. Her doing that I think has actually left me feeling okay about what happened and not wanting to hurt myself. Maybe we just weren’t right for each other. I’m not in the best place at the moment anyway so that could have had an effect on it. I wasn’t confident and I just presumed it would go badly so that could have also played a part. I think the main problem was that it just felt forced. If I wasn’t feeling so down either or just gotten out of this breakup then maybe it would have gone better. So yeah, I’m not feeling suicidal and I don’t feel like self harming either. I just feel lonely and kind of empty. I want a girlfriend more than anything in the world but it just feels like it’s never going to happen :(. Positives though, I went on a date and I got asked on the date so that’s something. I feel like online dating is much tougher than meeting someone in real life and getting to know them that way. Online dating is like applying for a job where you have to pass certain tests. Meting someone normally and getting to know them over time feels much more comfortable that meeting someone online. Anyway, I just thought I’d let you know how my date went and to say that the date hasn’t made me want to hurt myself. Hope you’re having a better day than me 🙂